It’s happened to a lot of us. We go shopping and find something we really love. We pick up our size and rush to the changing room excited to try it on…but it won’t go over the bust. It won’t go past our thighs. If you’re anything like me, this is a real knock to your self esteem.
I found myself in this situation earlier this afternoon whilst I was shopping for new trousers for my job interview next week. I was mortified. Instead of going out to pick up a larger size I avoided looking in the mirrors that surrounded me, trying to push away the thoughts that I looked bulgier than this morning. I returned the clothes to the shop assistant and all but stormed out the shop.
After reacting like this, I remembered the last time this had happened. It would have been a few years ago. Years before I heard about the concept of self love and treating yourself right. I realised how silly I had been. The size of my clothes don’t define me and are meaningless anyway.
- There are no set sizing standards when selling women’s clothing. Women’s bodies were so diverse that any attempt to standardise it was thrown out in the 1980’s. Check out this video from VOX to learn more.
- Think of all the sizes you own. I have a t-shirt that is a size 10 and I have size 16 jeans that are tight. Your body is amazing and a label has no right to make you feel any different.
- Remember you aren’t alone. People of all shapes and sizes struggle with the fashion industry and their sizing system (or lack of). For a personal account of how clothing sizes impact self esteem, watch this video by youtuber Blogilates who has been open about her struggles with body image.
- Don’t try and squeeze into too small clothing just because you feel it is ‘your size’. As we’ve seen, sizes aren’t real. You are real. Make sure you wear clothes you are comfortable in and fit well. You’ll feel better.
Luckily I managed to find a nice black skirt for my interview (in a charity shop for £1, I am very proud of myself) and now I just need a blouse. If that blouse doesn’t fit me well even though it’s my ‘size’, I’m going to at myself in the mirror and say ‘let’s get the size up.’
Look after yourself,